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October 29, 2005
Question: My b/f is constantly signing up at these online dating sites and downloading porn, hentai, anime and pics of girls. He emails the girl that he meets online too. He is not currently working so I am providing everything including paying for the internet that he uses.
ANSWER: Whoa! What happened to your charm? Is he deaf, dumb, and blind? No … he is not. He is on the net looking at pics! Not blind, anyway.
Without your approximate age, the wizard must hedge on advice because it would change depending on age and some other relevant circumstances.
Let’s just say this: Your relationship is in serious trouble. It doesn’t matter who pays for the internet. What matters is who has allowed the fire in your relationship to nearly go out. If it is he, then he must be dumped. If it is you, then is he compensating for his lost affection?
Well, you must be the best judge of that.
Wizard
October 26, 2005
Question: He tends to be annoying and immature in school, but outside of school he's really sweet and nice. He also bought me a 14K ring... but he expects a long life love when we are only 14!!! He's everywhere... even transferring into one of my classes!
ANSWER: Holy schmoly! If only all girls could be so lucky.
But hey, watch it, his enthusiasm can swirl up into something too big for either of you to handle. Be ready to dump him, or at least to put some ice on the flame, if he gets to coochy-smoochy, as so many boys at 14 do.
“Long life love” are not the three l’s that make money in real estate (Location, Location, Location). These are the three l’s that make young people lose. He could be headed for the emotional cliff-edge drop – Just don’t you be there with him. Maybe you should be ready, if things go bad, to return the ring.
Wizard
October 25, 2005
Question: I am deeply in love with my boyfriend of almost 2 years but we barely talk anymore, and he says he still wants to be with me but there are some problems. My best friends hate him. They say I could do better. And I also think I like my best guy friend and I told him what I was feeling. He says he doesn't like me like that. So I am in love with two guys and I want to be with them both, but one wants to stay with me and is hated by my friends and the other is my best friend, and my friends say we are perfect for each other but he just wants to be friends. Help me please, i'm so confused:(
ANSWER: Whether your best friends hate your boyfriend is not alone a good reason to dump him. BUT it is possible they have good reason to not like him, and you should be aware of whatever reason that is – That might be reason enough to dump him.
Regardless, if you feel inclined to dump him, and he is not talking to you like he was, then you should go ahead and do it.
As for guy number two, you should respect his wishes. If he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend, then you should just be friends, as he told you. Of course, once he gets to know you better, he might change his mind.
Don’t limit yourself to these two guys.
Wizard
October 19, 2005
Question: Okay, I haven't been dating this guy very long...but he has liked me for awhile...and i have liked him too. But he can be really shy! He calls but when he does he doesn't really have anything to say, and he can be sarcastic. He comes over, but it seems like all he wants to do is make-out with me. But i keep telling him no. he is a nice guy, and all but, i just don’t no if it will work out! plz help me!
ANSWER: Being shy isn’t so bad. (Besides, shyness is something guys get over with fairly quickly, as a general rule.) Give him a chance. Do something different than having him come over to try to make-out with you. Go to some event, or to some special place, and see if you and he can just have fun being together. If you can, it’s a good start. If you can’t, then both of you should move on in different directions. If he can’t keep his hands off you wherever you go, and you don’t like it, you need to end it.
Wizard
October 15, 2005
Question: I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years and he doesn't spend time with me and there is no communication and when i confront him he is "too busy" but he says he doesn't want it to be over what should i do? i really don't know all i know is i still love him.
ANSWER: Dump him. Should be obvious - if not for your clouded vision..
Wizard
October 13, 2005
Question: i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. when we fight, i feel like i want to leave him, and as soon as the morning comes i forgive him and forget about it. i feel stuck, but i don't know if i want to move. i think if i could move miles away from him i would end it...but we go to the same university, and we live together. i can't afford rent if he moves out, and i cant leave the place im at for 6 months... also, he bought a car off my parents, and im scared if i dump him, he won't keep paying my parents for the car...and since the car is in his name... most of the time things are good, but he’s aggressive when he’s angry (he through his keys at the fish tank and broke it because i was mad at him for looking at porn today)...speaking of that, he lied about smoking pot and chewing tobacco....he still does it behind my back, and he always looks at porn on the internet, and tries to delete the cookies. we haven’t had sex in months, but it’s because i don’t feel attracted to him because he’s attracted to porn.
ANSWER: Dump him. You must have friends who you can live with until you get settled, or maybe live with your parents if not too far from the university. For a more permanent living arrangement, you can share apartment space with girl friends. You do not need this guy. Your parents can take care of themselves. Don’t sacrifice your happiness and dignity to save your parent’s loan. A boyfriend is a worry and nuisance if he gets aggressive (but not abusive) when he’s angry. Throwing the keys is obnoxious enough, but it foretells lack of reasonable control of his impulses when he is angry. This is more than worrisome. It is a huge yellow caution sign or a detour sign. Combined with the other issues you reveal here, it is a detour sign, and you must follow it. Dump him.
Wizard
October 11, 2005
Question: I have this friend called Dani who likes two guys and they both like her equally. She really likes them both. She is going through a hard time as well. Her boyfriend is always there for her but wants them both at the same time. What can she do?
ANSWER: The wizard admits being stumped. Not enough information, perhaps, or just too dumb.
Wizard
October 9, 2005
Question: my boyfriend went to the columbus day regatta. I'm not sure if you are familiar with this. It is a group of boats hooked together. Everyone is drinking, partying, and the girls get wild and naked.
He says that only he and the guys go every year. Should I care?
ANSWER: If you want to go, yes – if you don’t, no.
Wizard
October 7, 2005
Question: I am dating a 34 year old w/ 2 children (7 & 10). Did I mention I am 22? He has no ambitions, no car, no house. I love him with all my heart, but I am not ready to be a stepmom. We have been dating for about 3 years and I have only really had these thoughts for about 6 months. (Life is too short right?)
ANSWER: Not just short - only one life. Get on with it. Dump him and have fun.
Wizard
October 4, 2005
Question: I’m a senior in high school and my boyfriend is a freshman in college. We are going on our one year anniversary. Previous to him going away to college, our relationship was definitely above average. We always enjoyed each other’s company and could communicate very easily with one another. Now that three hundred miles separate us, we don’t see each
other very often. I had understood the distance would be hard on our relationship but he recently asked me to not call him as often. I won't lie, it hurt. So I didn't call him. I’m aware that he is busy, I am as well, yet when we do rarely talk, he’s always the first to leave. As the weeks pass, I feel he doesn’t make time for me. Maybe he thinks we’ll be okay regardless of how long we talk on the phone for. I feel like I have become a chore to him; he speaks with me out of a habit rather than out of desire. I love him and I miss him so much. I miss what we had. I have hope that once we are together again, all will be well. I don't want to let him go but . . . .
ANSWER: You might have to. It is not only distance between you. In college a whole new world opens up to him. Maybe you can revive your relationship. It certainly sounds worth it. However, if you can’t, you too must see a whole new world open up to you, and in it are some wonderful people who will make superior soul mates, and at least one with whom you will enjoy a loving relationship.
You must not give up hope. If you revive the relationship, all is well. If you do not, all is still well, because in that event he is not, and cannot be, the end-all relationship for you, and others will follow.
Wizard
October 1, 2005
Question: Ok...he's married. wants out, but not yet. teenager involved...wants to wait for another 18 months. doesn't come over anymore, doesn't call on the weekends. I raised cain, that worked for a while, but now its the same old story. We're in our 30's, not kids. I love him, he says he loves me....but am I stupid for feeling like I shouldn't wait? is it ok to dump over the phone? or by instant message? or maybe I should tell his wife its over (just kidding, well sorta kidding).
ANSWER: Dump him and move on. Dating a married man is trouble in at least two ways. One is that the knife is sharp. The other is that the knife is long. Other possible ways it is trouble are: Who carries the knife and what is his or her intent?
Wizard’s wisdom: If a married man is not calling, it’s because he’s got other obligations. If he gives them up for you, he sorely misses something in his marriage, and you should wait until he’s divorced. He had better be worth it.
Remember that this site sells dump certificates too.
Wizard
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