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July 31, 2005
Question: i have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 months and im falling out of love with him..... plus he is going to another school.... what should i do?
ANSWER: If you are falling out of love with him, the answer is simple: Dump him. Move on to the next boyfriend.
Wizard
July 29, 2005
Question: Ive been with this guy for eight months now and I love him. But He's ready for marriage and I am not. I also have a chance to move to XXXXX in the next month and I really want to go. I do not expect him to wait for me while I figure out what I want to do with my life and he is an excellent guy, I mean they just dont make 'em like him anymore. But I want to see the world and be more independent and besides I am way too young for marriage. I want to dump him and still be his friend because he is my best friend what should I do?
ANSWER: You express your thoughts real well – and the wizard does not think you should re-adjust them. Move to where you want to go. Tell him how much you think well of him – but be up front that you feel too young for marriage.
If you feel too young for marriage, then marriage must wait.
Seeing the world and being more independent are two excellent goals. You should pursue them.
Wizard
July 27, 2005
Question: I went on one date with a neighbor. I don't like him or want to go out again.
He's called twice and I haven't returned his phone call. He stopped by my house but I didn't answer the door. How do I make him know I don't want to see him again?
ANSWER: Your message to him is simple enough. He should leave you alone.
But to put clarity into your message, order a dump certificate from this site. Give us his name and put his address as the shipping address, and off it goes. He’ll have it in a few days.
Always be clear, firm, and consistent. The dump certificate might help with clarity, but you must never waiver or equivocate in your message that you do not want to date again.
If he still bothers you, get the message to him by mail or telephone that if he continues, you will notify the police that he is harassing you, and mean it. That might work. Good luck to you.
Wizard
July 23, 2005
Question: so i wanna dump my boyfriend. he's such a sweet guy but not the guy for me. i'm anything but sweet. it's been 2 months and i've never cheated on him ...yet.
that's quite an accomplishment in my book! well i thought i changed but the old me is screaming to get out and i can't hold her in much longer. eye candy is just no longer acceptable to me, i need to taste the candy!
(sigh) so what the hell should i tell my boyfriend?
ANSWER: If he’s not the guy for you, then you should dump him. If you don’t, we can predict he will dump you when he finds out he’s not the only candy you like, unless, after you discuss it with him, he's okay with it.
The answer to your question is that you should be honest with him. If he is okay with it, you might not want to dump him. If he does not like it, you'll both know that it is time for a dump.
Wizard (This is an amended answer after second-thinking by the wizard. The change is in italics.)
July 23, 2005
Question: How do I dump or reject someone that I don't like but he keeps bugging me?
He won't stop calling me until I answered him back, And I'm still a kid I'm not even 13 yet.
ANSWER: If you have parents around, or anyone who takes care of you, tell them. They should be able to help you.
This is not a boyfriend. This is a pest, like a mosquito or horse-fly that won’t leave you alone. Unfortunately, you cannot swat it. But in everything you do to get rid of the pest, be clear, firm, and consistent.
Wizard
July 10, 2005
Question: My boyfriend and I went out last summer for a few months but he dumped me while he was away on vacation saying it was too difficult to have a girlfriend at this time. A year has gone and I was still madly in love with him. We would occasionally talk but never hang out. The last day of school he came up to me and gave me this short talk about how sorry he was for everything he’s ever done to me. It looked as if he was about to cry. So we decided to start trying things again for the summer. But they're not going so good now. He has told me has was seeing another girl before we began going out this time and that he still hasn't told her about me. It’s been 12 days since we've last hung out and he says it’s because we can never be completely home alone. It seems as if he’s waiting till I get my license next month to actually start hanging out. I'm sick of waiting for him. We plan things but he just ditches me for his friends who happen to hate me. I'm trying my hardest here. What should I do?
ANSWER: Don’t wait for him. Don’t try so hard. If the relationship is right for you, and for him, it will happen. But don’t hang everything on his being in sync with you. If he fails you, you have a whole world of good guys out there.
You’ve been dumped and ditched. Damned twice is enough, isn’t it?
He needs to come through for you with an improved attitude and a better commitment. But be ready for him to disappoint your expectations and wants.
So to your question, what should you do? Test him by giving him one more chance, but don’t let him know it is another chance. Ask yourself if he meets your expectations and wants. If he does, then be happy and work at developing a healthy, fun relationship.
If he doesn’t, you dump him, and find another guy. Take control – don’t let his failures control your dating life. He is not the end-all special for you.
Wizard
July 7, 2005
Question: ok. i am so in love with this guy and he knows and he says he's in love with me too. should i wait to see if he asks me to be his girlfriend? i am moving in a few weeks so should i wait until then to see what he says or should i just forget him and move on?
ANSWER: Why wait? Enjoy the time you have and speak up. But be honest with him about moving. He should know. Then see what happens.
Wizard
July 6, 2005
Question: i want to dump this guy but i dont know how and i dont want to sound like a bitch.
ANSWER: Have us send him a dump certificate. Then let him know it came from you.
Wizard
July 5, 2005
Question: should i dump the guy i really like because he is totally ignoring me?
ANSWER: If you’re not in a relationship, it’s giving up. But if you’re in a relationship and he’s ignoring you, dump him.
Wizard
July 4, 2005
Question: this guy that i have being seeing for a while wont stop talking to his ex. I have talked to him about it and he said that they are just friends because they both decided that they didn’t want to go out anymore cos they were too far away from each other. its seriously annoying me! he says he loves me and we get on really well. ive tried to not let it bother me but it does! what shall i do!
ANSWER: Split allegiances are annoying! Friendships are a good thing, but not with ex’s. He should be more understanding of you, and less “friendly’ with the ex.
If he loves you, he is willing to put your love first. You need to tell him – remind him – that you’ve got a good thing going on together, and that this relationship is troubling you. Tell him it is not so much that you doubt him, but that you cannot help being bothered by it.
That is a normal and even healthy reaction you’re having. He should be sensitive to that and, in fact, be gratified that you want him so much.
If that doesn’t work, make him your ex. He might come around later, and he might not.
Wizard
July 1, 2005
Question: My boyfriend is getting annoying. Should I dump him?
ANSWER: If your investment into the relationship is so small that his annoyance bothers you enough to think about dumping him, then the answer is yes.
Wizard
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